How would you feel if you knew how to have healthy, deep, and meaningful conversations with anyone? If the answer to that question excites you, then this blog is for you. By the end of this blog:
You will know how to build a harmonious, peaceful, and mutually understandable connection with anyone.
You will understand their dreams, ambitions, fear, frustrations, and everything you need to build a meaningful connection.
Without wasting any time, you can use the following psychological strategies and see the results almost immediately.
Let us get started
Empathy: In today’s day and age, empathy is a superpower. Hands down, empathy will win you the hearts of people you want. It is a skill that therapists use to make sure the client opens up more. Simply put, empathy is putting yourself in the other person’s place and seeing the world from their perspective. Fortunately, empathy is not a predisposed or an elusive talent that only the special among us have. It is a skill that can be learned. When you empathize with people, you accept their experiences. Tip: When talking to your friends and family members, put yourself in their position and start seeing the world from their perspective. You will be amazed to see how things make more sense.
Make them your Priority. Make sure the person that you are talking to is your number one priority at that moment. Nothing else should matter: not your cat, not your Instagram and not any meme. Switch off your phones and concentrate on the person you are talking to.
Undivided Attention and Listening: This strategy is an extension of the above point. Let me ask you something. Would you want to talk to a person who is listening to you with undivided attention or someone who is distracted all time? When you listen to people, you make them feel heard. This, in turn, makes them open up more to you.
Trust: If they do not trust you in the first place, they can never open up to you, and therefore none of the mentioned above strategies will work. How do you build trust? You build trust by opening about your experiences and being as truthful as you can. When you are vulnerable infront of people, they have no choice but to trust you. To have deep and meaningful conversations, both parties have to invest in the form of their unspoken experiences.
Ask questions that seek emotions: Questions like ‘What do you do for a living?’ or ‘ What is your favourite movie?’ are fact-based. People usually use these questions for small talk. But questions like ‘How did you feel when you finally achieved your goal? ’ encourage emotion-based responses. When people begin to answer questions like these, they will remember the feeling of achievement. After then, let the emotions do the talking.
You must understand that you will need deliberate practice to be a genius in the strategies mentioned above. Remember, you may find it challenging initially, but you will get better at it with consistency.